“A pattern of abusive behavior.” That single sentence is probably the most defining when comparing these two words: Anger and Intimate Partner Violence (Domestic Violence). Domestic violence is a behavior – a behavior that is chosen over something else…
By itself, it’s just a behavior but it can run deep and requires a lot of work by the abuser. It takes exploration of belief systems, how one feels about themselves, what the perceived role of the male versus the female, a deep look at why a person would want to control another deserves very close examination and in doing so, sort of like looking in the mirror, the behavior can change. It takes time though and is not like flipping the light switch on or off. And so, what can be done while all the change is taking place?
Well, first I would say, if you’re thinking that, then you’re already halfway there. In short though, you fake it till you make it. Practicing different thinking patterns is the beginning and a slow process but so rewarding if given the chance to succeed (Exercise caution when changing patterns of thought though, you could begin to feel better).
In short, if you’re mandated to attend DV treatment, that’s exactly what it is, TREATMENT! You should not be mistreated rather, helped through the journey of discovery and new understanding of self in order to live a more quality life either with your current partner or future relationship.
Regards,
