I received some feedback on the book and find that some have missed the point. And that is, with matters of the heart, it is complex and can’t be resolved with unprofessional intervention, family, or friends who want only to join in on the folly. Marriage is the union of two people and it’s a sexual union. That’s what makes it so complex – because human sexuality is beyond any buddy buddy relationship outside the home.
When Domestic Violence happens, understand that it is not a disease rather, a behavior based on one gender’s perceived superiority over the other – it’s about unequal power and control in the relationship. In the case of Tuan Dao? He was a broken person. He was well liked outside his home. In fact, there lies the contradiction. How could he be such a loved person outside the home and a crazed, jealous husband within the walls of matrimony?
It’s obvious to me…His ideas of parental and husband roles were distorted and in the end…it was the shame and disappointment that drove him to murder his own children. It was not rational. It was a power play and a final attempt to control his own environment. This is proof enough for me to believe he suffered from a childhood attachment disorder.
I didn’t write that book as a work of literary art folks. It is a story; a gruesome story of how relationships can end up fatal. Take care all.
Mike
